Alright y’all, let’s talk about it. Marriage. The thing that has been hyped up since the dawn of time, from fairy tales to family reunions where Aunt Patty won’t stop asking, “So… when are you getting married?”
I used to think I knew exactly what marriage was. Love, wedding bells, a cute little house, and happily ever after, right? But one day, I stopped and thought: What does God actually say about marriage? Not society. Not the rom-coms. Not Instagram-perfect couples. But the actual Bible. Because let’s be real, if I’m gonna do this whole marriage thing one day, I want to do it God’s way.
So, I went straight to scripture, and whew—let me tell you, it’s not just about love and wedding rings. God’s design for marriage is deep, beautiful, and way more serious than most of us realize. Let’s break it down.
1. Marriage is a Covenant, Not Just a Contract
Malachi 2:14
“The Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.”
My Take: Okay, first of all, the word covenant hits different than contract. A contract is something you sign when you get Wi-Fi installed. A covenant is a God-sealed, unbreakable promise.
That means marriage is not about finding someone who makes you happy 24/7. It’s about commitment, sacrifice, and God standing as a witness to the whole thing. This isn’t just “sign here and let’s see how it goes.” Marriage is serious business.
2. Husbands, Lead. Wives, Submit. But Hold On…
Ephesians 5:22-25
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
My Take: Now, before you throw something at me, let’s really break this down. Yes, wives are called to submit. But husbands? Y’all are called to love like Jesus.
And what did Jesus do? He died for the church. He served, protected, and gave everything for us. This isn’t some “wives, be quiet and do what you’re told” situation. This is a call for BOTH spouses to give their all. Marriage is about mutual sacrifice. A wife submitting to a husband who loves her like Christ? That’s powerful.
3. Marriage is About Purpose, Not Just Passion
Genesis 2:18
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'”
My Take: God didn’t create marriage just because Adam was lonely and needed someone to watch Netflix with. He created marriage for purpose.
The word helper in Hebrew is ezer, which doesn’t mean “assistant” or “sidekick.” It means strong support, warrior-like aid. That means marriage isn’t just about “feeling in love.” It’s about building something together.
4. Divorce? Not Part of God’s Original Plan
Matthew 19:6
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
My Take: God takes marriage seriously. It’s not meant to be thrown away when things get hard. Now, before anyone starts feeling judged—God knows marriage is tough, and He allows divorce in cases like adultery (Matthew 19:9). But the goal? Lifelong commitment.
Society says, “If you’re unhappy, just leave.” But God says, ‘Fight for it.’ That doesn’t mean staying in abusive situations (God is not calling anyone to be mistreated). But it does mean marriage requires work, forgiveness, and daily surrender to God.
5. Sex? Yeah, That’s God’s Idea Too
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.”
My Take: Let’s be clear: God created sex. And He made it good. But He also designed it for marriage.
In a world where hookup culture is normal, the Bible stands firm—sex is meant to be a gift inside marriage, not a casual activity. And honestly? When you see the damage that casual sex can cause—emotionally, spiritually, even physically—it makes sense why God set boundaries around it.
So… What Does This Mean for Us?
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- Marriage isn’t just about love—it’s a God-sealed covenant.
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- It’s built on mutual sacrifice, not one-sided control.
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- It has a greater purpose than just companionship.
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- It requires commitment, not convenience.
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- And yes, intimacy was meant to be part of it—God’s way.
If you’re married, honor your covenant. If you’re single, don’t rush into something just because you’re tired of waiting. God’s plan for marriage is so much bigger than what culture makes it out to be.
Now, let’s talk! What surprised you most about biblical marriage? Are you single, dating, or married…how do you see these verses playing out in real life? Drop your thoughts below!
