Well, I’m sure you all know by now, I’m single. And not just single-single, but like “been single so long I forgot what a date feels like” single. And honestly? I never really saw the problem with it. That is… until I looked around and realized that everyone my age was either married, getting married, or planning a baby shower.
And whether they were happy or not, they all seemed to have the same judgmental, “Awww, you’re still single? Don’t worry, you’ll find someone” look when they spoke to me.
One day, after hearing for the millionth time that I needed a husband, I went to a wedding. And y’all… I completely broke down in the bathroom to my very married and very happy aunt. The reality hit me like a runaway train: Why am I single? Is it because no one wants me or because God actually planned for my life to look like this?
And then my aunt, in her very tell-it-like-it-is fashion, looked me dead in the eye and said, “Girl, you need to think! Who is gonna take care of you when you’re old and gray?”
And in that moment, my panic leveled up. Now, not only was I single at 36, but suddenly I had visions of me alone in a rocking chair with a dozen cats. Jesus, HELP!
So the next day, I did what I *should’ve done first, *I prayed. I asked God why no one wanted to marry me. I asked why I never cared before. And I asked Him to choose someone for me, if that was His will.
Now, I’m not exactly the most patient soldier in Christ’s army, so instead of waiting for God to drop a man into my lap, I went straight to the Bible. Because let’s be real, I needed God’s actual words, not my emotions, telling me exactly where He stood on my singleness.
Does God Approve of Singleness?
First things first: Is my singleness even a good thing? Or am I just being forgotten by the divine husband delivery system?
1 Corinthians 7:7-8
“I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.”
**Understanding The Verse :** Paul, an actual apostle, was out here single and thriving. And not just surviving, it was his choice! He called singleness a gift. Now, at first, I had questions—Gift? Where’s the return policy? But then I realized: **Paul saw singleness as an opportunity to serve God without distractions. I going to pray that this is not what God’s plan is for me but if it is Lord, PLEASE give me the strength **
Why Am I Single? Is It God’s Timing or My Own Doing?
Ecclesiastes 3:1
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
My Commentary: Okay, Lord, so you’re telling me that right now is my single season. Cool, cool. But why is this season lasting longer than a Florida summer?!
What I get from this verse is that just because I think it’s time doesn’t mean God thinks it’s time. And I can either spend my singleness stressed out or I can use it wisely. Which leads me to…
What Should I Be Doing in the Meantime?
Matthew 6:33
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
God’s Commentary: STOP OBSESSING. Whew! I felt that. Jesus is literally saying, if you chase after Me, I’ll handle the rest.
So instead of spending my nights spiraling into a “why am I still single?” panic attack, I should be building my relationship with God, serving, growing, and preparing for whatever He has next—whether that’s marriage or more years of single blessings.
How to Be Patient in Singleness Without Losing Your Mind
Isaiah 40:31
“But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.”
My Commentary: So waiting on God isn’t just sitting around… it’s an active thing. I need to be trusting, working, growing, and living while I wait. God isn’t ignoring me. He’s preparing me.
What If Marriage Isn’t in God’s Plan for Me?
Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
God’s Commentary: His plans > my plans. If God’s plans don’t include marriage, then that means my life is still going to be full, purposeful, and amazing.
But also… Lord, if you’re listening, a husband would be nice. Amen.
Final Thoughts: So… Why Am I Still Single?
Because it’s God’s plan for me, right now.
I’m not forgotten. I’m not “less than.” I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be. And whether marriage is in my future or not, my life is valuable, full, and blessed RIGHT NOW.
So if you’re single like me, stop stressing. Start living. And let God be the one to write your love story—however He sees fit.
Until then, I’ll just be over here thriving in my gift of singleness… and maybe double-checking my mailbox in case God does decide to send a husband my way. 😉
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